Accidental Parenting

No, this is not Hugo's style of becoming a parent*, but rather a term used in the latest in the string of parenting and baby books I am reading.
Now, I don't normally prescribe or enjoy those self help kinda books that explain hw you should be living your life and what you should be doing, in fact I feel that you should make and learn from your own mistakes.
Having said that, there is definately something to be said for some good advice and guidance. Alot of the parenting type books out there are extremely regimented and impractical to follow. Other advice out there is from Gran or Great-gran and that advice is just SO outdated... I mean who still uses baby powder anyway, and what are towelling nappies used for other than vomit mats?

The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg, is one such book that imparts some wonderful advice. It is honest, logical, intelligent and seems to be based on real world practice as opposed to laboratory experiment. Okay, I've only read 5 pages and skimmed a few more, but so far so good. Paul Kerton's Fab Dad is also a great read for Dad's but doesn't get down to the nitty gritty that Mom's need.

Anyway, posted about being a super sub the other day... Well... maybe less super than I orginally thought... Although my intentions were good, I found out this morning, after getting up at 5am and comforting Michael for an hour or so in order to let Cath sleep, that I was caught in a typical Accidental Parenting trap. What I am supposed to do, is to ignore the little snorts and sniffles, grunts and groans and let the kid sleep on. Apparently babies make funny noises for a while before waking, and me getting up, grabbing him and sitting comforting him for a while was actually not such a good thing as it is going to get him used to Daddy holding him and putting him to sleep in the early morning... Something I would hate to have to do every single morning, altho holding him is wonderful.

So, tomorrow I'll ignore the grunts and groans and wait for the crying before I jump into the game and super sub!

Either that or sleep in the spare room and ignore the lot!
:)




*He's on his second unplanned kid, and has now decided to marry his gf!